Getting Over Your Fear Of Asking For Help
A lot of us feel like we have to do it all, but that's just not sustainable.
Let me know if this sounds familiar...
You run around constantly like superwoman, taking care of chores, cooking, driving your kids around to their various activities on top of usual errands. You plan the birthday parties, you shop for your kid's clothes and presents, schedule family activities, and countless other little things that add up to make you exhausted.
In addition, you're trying to start or scale a business and you feel like you have zero time for yourself. But you can handle it... right? That's what you tell everyone else! You're busy and overwhelmed and so tired, but that's just part of being a mom... right?
Well I'm here to challenge that idea. Because if you're constantly exhausted and trying to juggle all the things on your own, you're setting yourself up to inevitably drop a ball or burnout completely. A recent experience with my partner really helped me to recognize my difficulties in asking for help and accepting help from others in my life.
Here's a few things that have helped me to get over this fear of asking for help.
1. Identify what it is that's scaring you.
Maybe you like things done a certain way, and no one else can do it the same, so it's easier for you to just take care of it. Or maybe you don't want to be a burden on others. Maybe you just don't want to lose control. Or maybe you want others to see you as someone that's super strong and able to handle it all; you don't want to admit to yourself that you need help.
It could be a combination of any of those or something else entirely. You need to really do the work to get to the bottom of WHY you don't want to accept help.
2. Choose someone that you fully trust.
Asking the right person for help is integral to making sure the task gets done in a way that won't make you even more stressed out. I definitely lean on my partner as this person, but it could also be a parent or other family member, or a close friend.
3. Start small.
Maybe you aren't ready to hand off planning a whole event, but perhaps you could delegate ordering the cake? Or buying the decorations? Choose something that will genuinely help you out to have off your plate, but not so big that you'd be stressing yourself out with worry about it.
4. Step back.
It's SO important not to micromanage. It's incredibly difficult to give up control of something like this, but with practice it does get easier. Give your instructions, answer questions they have, but then back off. Trust them to take care of it.
Is this something you struggle with? Let me know if these tips helped you out!
If you're interested in hearing more, I highly recommend the most recent episode of Through The Marketing Lens podcast, where I dove into the situation with my family that led me to this topic in the first place. If this post resonated with you at all,you're going to really love this episode.